Bad Communication Habits That Wreck Relationships

 Posted on February 22,2013 in Divorce

Communication problems-especially the lack of communication-are the most common reason for divorce, according to studies. An article in the Huffington Post lists several bad communication habits that put pressure on relationships and may eventually lead to divorce. Here are some of them:

• Inauthenticity. Saying "yes" when you really mean "no" just won't work in the long run. If we constantly do things that are against our will, we end up resentful and angry. Not trusting our partner to understand us is not going to work. If you are not ready to discuss or do something right away, you should say so but make sure you stay true to your word.
• Incongruence. Communication is mostly non-verbal. If we say one thing while rolling our eyes or shrugging shoulders we may send mixed messages. Maintaining eye contact is one way to avoid this and ensures that you listen actively what your partner is saying.
•  Win-lose attitude. Talking about uncomfortable subjects may make us sometimes become judgmental, defensive and make our partner feel guilty. However, these tactics can break down communication completely. Trying to win every argument is not a good idea. It is better to direct the conversation toward a peaceful resolution and think about the possible outcomes.
• Interrupting, finishing sentences and forgetting to pause. Give your partner the time to formulate an answer and do not interrupt. Men and women are different in this respect. Men often feel that their partner demands a quick response or asks something different while they are still thinking about an answer to the first question. Slowing down and thinking what you will say next will make your partner feel respected

If your relationship has come to the point where divorce is the best option, you should consult with a skilled divorce lawyer. Make sure your legal rights are protected. Contact a capable Wheaton family law attorney today.