Co-Parenting Strategies You Can Use in a Contentious Divorce

 Posted on April 09, 2018 in Children

While many parents have come to realize that an amicable divorce is a more favorable approach, there are some who just cannot get along. Perhaps there has been a history of abuse, or maybe one party is set on alienating the other. Thankfully, even in such scenarios, there are strategies that parents can use to preserve and protect the best interests of their children throughout the divorce process. Learn more in the following sections, including how the assistance of a seasoned and competent divorce attorney can improve the outcome of a contentious Illinois divorce.

Focusing on the Children

Perhaps the most effective strategy that one can use to mitigate the risk of troubles in a contentious divorce is to ensure that the focus remains on the children. Do not discuss personal matters with your spouse, and do not ask about their private life. Avoid arguing about the past (as well as the future), and leave money issues to be settled in court or mediation.

Agree to Disagree

No two people parent the same, so it is highly unlikely that you will condone or agree with everything that your spouse does with your children. However, it is essential to keep in mind that your spouse's relationship with your children is now separate from yours, and unless there are safety concerns, you do not have any say over how they parent. So, when it comes to minor issues, such as what time the children should go to bed on the weekends, it may be best if you and your spouse resolve to agree to disagree.

Use an Alternative Means of Communication 

You and your spouse may be forever tied to one another through your children, but you do not have to communicate with them in person. In fact, face-to-face contact is typically discouraged in a contentious divorce, and parties usually encouraged to find other means of communication. Some parents find that timed phone conversations are an effective way to discuss child-related matters. Others do best with email communication. Just make sure you do not use your child to relay messages to your spouse, either during the divorce or after it has been finalized.

How Our DuPage County Divorce Lawyers Can Help

In addition to using an alternative means of communication, parents can use their attorney to negotiate with their spouse during the divorce process. With more than 40 years of experience, Stock, Carlson & Asso. LLC is the firm to trust. Our DuPage County divorce lawyers prioritize the best interests of children, and we offer the personalized services that you deserve. Schedule your free initial consultation to get started. Call 630-665-2500.

Sources:

https://childmind.org/article/conflicts-over-parenting-styles/

https://www.metroparent.com/daily/parenting/divorce-family-law/successful-co-parenting-steps-divorced-parents/